What is marriage? Very simple, it
is a heavenly bond between two souls and bodies. When we get married, we
promise to be truthful, honest and cooperate to each other for a lifetime.
That’s why in another word, it is called as a lifetime relation. This rapport
gets stronger when you have a child as a symbol of your love. But when suspicion
and apprehension enters your married life, it kills your love and destroys your
happy life. Not only it decimates your life, it also devastates your children’s
future. Today we are discussing here how much dissolution of marriage affects
you and more than you to your children.
As a fully grown man or woman,
you parents can understand and habituate yourselves for an after divorce life.
But a small child is very much ignorant about your breakup. Their minds get
more and more pressurized about thinking what is happening to his or her
parents? Why they are living separately? Why they are quarreling to each other?
Why can’t they live together? etc.etc...Your decision of ending marriage
creates a black hole inside their brain and kills them from inside slowly. Children
get stressed when they go through the stress of joint custody or visitation. They
find it difficult to adjust with problems during the court case procedure. They
suffer from loneliness and feelings like anger, hatred and sadness rises among
them. Some of them think that, they are the reason of their parents’ divorce
and feel guilty and it bothers them. These negative thoughts and stress impedes
in their physical and mental improvement. It affects their academic career and
results as a low grade. In some cases it has been seen that some children have
been so much depressed that they attempts suicide. Your argument and quarreling in the house creates an improper atmosphere for your child. In some
cases the stress results in drug abuse, violent outbursts and self injury for your
child.
Now you can better understand how
your decision of divorce simply ruins your kid’s life. It may not affect you a
lot because you are mature and understand what to do next but it will be result
in a worst conclusion for your kids. If divorce is necessary for you then
discuss this matter with your kids. Makes them understand that they are not the
reason behind this. Make out their feelings towards you. Spent enough time with
them. Try to pass away weekends both of you with your child, if there is a child
custody situation within you. Make them feel that you love them as much as you
loved them before.
We at the Law office of Edward
Misleh provide divorce attorneys. The attorneys and staff at our firm
understand the emotional nature of family legal matters and the importance of
trust in the attorney-client relationship. Our firm helps people navigate
through the legal process to find the best possible outcome to difficult
situations.
